In all seriousness, all of you out there, single or non-single, should read David Deida’s work.
It very clearly lays out what feminine & masculine energies are and how they work in our day-to-day lives.
I’m still single now too, but honestly, it’s exhausting to hear this when you’re out and just trying to have a good time.
When Tinder started in Indonesia, most of its users were either foreign or Western-educated girls.
Another example of non-subjective criteria: The opposite would be: finding someone who cares about their health (subjective). I’ve dated guys before that friends introduced me to, sure, some of them turned out to have issues (either anger management or extreme unhappiness), but you learned a lot from those relationships too.
Human beings are complex animals, there are millions of spectrums of people out there, that come in all shapes or form, try not to limit your understanding of what your potential partner should be like into specific boxes that don’t really mean anything. If you have good friends who really get and understand you, certainly they have some sort of idea who you’ll get along well. I just wish my friends would do a better job, haha kidding, but not kidding.
I found it by being super desperate, as in you’re dropping everything in your life to make it all about finding your soulmate is quite a ridiculous concept and makes you undateable, because you’ll be super boring and somewhat creepy.
I also think I wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t really have a life of their own.
I went through this, too, then the constant whining actually drained me real bad.